Mom was a very sharp, active 103 year old until pneumonia hit. She spent a few days in the hospital, & was sent home with meds, but she didn’t snap back as she usually does. When our doctor recommended she return to hospital for further testing, she asked if he could guarantee she would be able to resume her past activities...be her old self again. When he told her he couldn’t do that, she said she was done, no more hospitals, poking & probing. The doctor then explained he would then have to recommend hospice, & explained what that meant. Mom came home with us then thinking that she would die within days. Each day she would awake angry that she was still alive, on oxygen, needing assistance to bathe, dress, & use a walker. She was very ready to leave this life, kept asking us to help her do this. After asking the Hospice doctor for a referral, he gave us Dr. Bob’s name and number. Elizabeth returned my call promptly, we spoke for a while, and an appointment was made for Dr. Bob to meet Mom for initial assessment. He was wonderful with her, and us, he was warm, compassionate, and understanding. He explained the End of Life
process, the steps that needed to be taken, and said that Mom was an excellent candidate for it. Elizabeth also became a major part of the process, helping our daughter specifically, via phone conversations and emails to understand her grandmother’s decision. When the final day came, our family sat with Mom, talked, laughed, cried. Bob was there with us, definitely part of the family. I was surprised that he sat with us all for over an hour, until Mom finally said okay, she was ready. The end was very peaceful, she went to sleep, and we were there with her. Dr. Bob made the necessary calls, finished paperwork, sat with us for awhile. Most importantly, when he left he said anytime any of us needed to talk, he or Elizabeth were there for us. We can’t thank them enough for helping us through this amazing, unusual experience.